Our Family's Adventure Into Life

My girl’s grandmother called me last night and again asked if we would take the baby (my girls bio big sister is pregnant and due in December). I told her again if the baby needed a place to go then of course we would but I don’t see that happening. She is 100% sure big sis will not be able to handle a baby and that the boyfriend’s family won’t help. I also have my doubts that big sis can take care of a baby but I think the boyfriends family will try to get custody. Grandma told me she is worried the baby will be removed from that house, but from everything I see they are financially stable and have a nice house and other kids they are caring for. I don’t know if grandma realizes how bad it has to be for a baby to be removed. Big sis wants this baby, I don’t think she has any idea how much work a baby actually is, but I hope she can pull it together and be a good mom.

We are not super far apart but in different states, I told her if the baby was actually removed it takes a long time for inter state foster care transfers, and they would want the baby close for visits and to support reunification. Even after explaining all this, Grandma is still sure a few weeks in big sis will want us to take this baby. She is only around 3 months pregnant, a lot can happen in the next 6 months.

I have a huge work thing tomorrow morning that I absolutely cannot miss and as I was getting into bed my 8 year old came out of her bedroom COVERED in puke and poop, head to toe. I don’t even know how that’s possible. It’s SO SO much. My husband is taking care of her room (it’s everywhere) I put her in the shower and put her to bed on the couch with a bucket but now I have to go to sleep but my sick-anxiety it’s SO high, I hope I have at least a 24 hour incubation if I am going to get it. I hope she gets over it quickly, poor baby, she was dry heaving in the shower! Maybe we will get lucky and it’s food poisoning and not a stomach bug. Ahhh I have to sleep, even as of now I am only going to get 6 hours!

My girls older sister who lives with their grandmother just announced she is pregnant. She is 18 and graduating high school in June, but very immature and very selfish (self centered?). She has been with the 17yo boyfriend for two months, and this was 100% on purpose. Grandma found ovulation predictor tests in her room a few weeks ago. I am so sad for her.. she really seemed to be doing well the last year, seemed to have made big strides. She moved in with the boyfriends family who all seem to be very happy about the pregnancy. I hope this works out better than I think it will. For whatever reason grandma thinks we are back up parents who will come in and scoop up the baby when sister decides she doesn’t want them anymore, and for multiple reasons, that’s just not how it will go.

My 15yo has his first girlfriend, she is a sweet girl who we all like very much. Her parents are divorced and she doesn’t have the best relationship with her dad. Before a few months ago she hadn’t talked to her dad in over 2 years. Now she has a boyfriend he has to play the protective dad role. I am sure I have mentioned this before but my 15yo is the sweetest, nicest, most respectful boy ever, he is also 6’4 250lbs and built like a linebacker, he can look intimidating. He is planning to meet the dad this week and was told not to stand to close to the dad because he’ll feel emasculated by my son’s height. 🙄🙄🙄 a grown man with children will feel emasculated by a child being taller than him. The girlfriend also told my son not to get baited in to talk about politics. Oh because my son wants human rights for all and thinks his girlfriend should have body autonomy, and the dad won’t agree with that.

One of my kiddos had a mental health emergency almost two weeks ago and needed to be admitted, it has been very very hard having them out of the house. We miss them so much, and they miss home. They missed Easter, they are missing most of spring break. It all just sucks so much. The good news is they are being release in less than 48 hours! I am so ready to have them home. On that same note, having them out of the house has seriously been like having 50% less kids, (and there are still 4 kids home) so that is pretty validating that they are an intense kid and I don’t just suck at parenting, or maybe both can be true 🤷🏻‍♀️. Either way I just want them home and am counting down the minutes.

I know that caffeine makes me sick, it’s common knowledge with everyone I know. Yet, about once a month I still drink it to check if it still does (because I love coffee so much). Today was my monthly trial.. spoiler: still makes me sick.

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This goes against what all my friends think, but I HATE working from home. They pulled us from 90% of our work for the entire month of March, luckily for me I had a week already scheduled for the 10% we are still allowed to do, so I was able to travel last week. But this week I am stuck at home and next week I am only out of the house for two days. I wish I could just do my regular job. 😭

Book recommendation: I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy. I don’t usually read memoir type books, but this was excellent. It was also a short quick read, easily finished in a day.

One of my kids turned 13 today. Three teenagers in this house! She is my easiest and hardest kid. The easiest because if left to her own devices she would never ask for anything besides maybe WiFi. She is happy enough to sit in her room alone reading, crafting, and on video games. She is my hardest because I know she needs more I just don’t know what. She has fired two therapists, she has some anxiety, some depression and is working through some gender stuff. She is figuring things out but I just want to help her, I also want her to want help from us (I recognize that is a me issue) . She has a partner, who is a lovely kid. He is trans but doesn’t have a supportive family, or at least isn’t comfortable finding out if they would be. His mom found out this week that they are dating and said they can’t hang out alone anymore which upset her, but she also will not talk about it so I don’t know how much. She told us a few months ago she thinks she has ASD. I feel stupid for not seeing before she brought it up, because she probably is. We have sent in all the paperwork but there is a long wait for an eval. My husband is terrified she is going to turn 18 and we will just never see her again. I really don’t think that will happen, but just in case, I will just keep working on being a person she’ll want to keep around.